Advocating for her is hard sometimes. Not only do I have to be her voice, but I have to be the "voice" of her disabilities and abilities . Sometimes I have to talk about her in a way that for me is really hard. As a special needs parent you really try to uplift your child, you try to make them feel important and having an optimistic approach is generally the best option. If you think negative all the time because you can't get over the fact that there are things that will always be different, good luck you wont make it in this mom life....