She doesn’t know how to make meaningful connections I’m told. She lives in her own little world I’m told. She learns at a different pace and level I’m told. Yes some of this is true but that little girl runs to me when I get home from work, she hugs me and tries to say Mom. She cuddles with me at night and we laugh together over favorite songs and dance. That little girl makes sounds of joy while on the way to grandpas house just by noticing the scenery around, she knows where we are going.
Yes she in unaware of things that will hurt her. Yes there is a lot we have to work on with her speech development but she tries to communicate. She will grab your hand and pull it to the on and off switch on her toys because she can’t tell you she wants it on or do it herself… but that alone is her telling us things without words.. she tries so hard!!
Of course she lives differently and she lives in her own little world, this i know. But that little girl understands things in her own way, she makes meaningful connections and loves others. She is a beautiful person and not just because she is mine, she is so sweet and her smile is contagious. I strive to be more like that… leave a little sparkle wherever you go type of life…
We have been to plenty of specialists, therapist and appointments and yes more are to come. But one thing that resonates in my head is the fact of being told that usually autistic children have a hard time making emotional connections. I call BS on this. Everyone is different, even those with no medical issues. We are all unique and even those on this spectrum in life are unique. She is not defined by being “autistic” she is my daughter and she loves me and shows me this.
She loves her family and she shows them too, yes we have to take her to therapy and yes there is a lot of work to help her in life in general but she gives a shit hello people!!! I just think it’s not right to say that due to one being a certain way in life they are like this or like that. There is no one person exactly alike, even twins. They are not the exact same they may look like little replicas but they are not a perfect match in every way… nope sorry folks. God made us to be different. This was a great thing.. think how bored we would be otherwise… it would be almost robotic in a sense.
I understand that there are a handful of “behaviors” those on the spectrum generally show in life… I get it… But I have also noticed that when I tell someone my daughter is autistic, there are 2 kinds of people… those who are open and those who are closed to this word they hear. It’s hard to see that look on someones face change… kinda want to slap it off for them and tell them to smile, i wont though don’t worry. But yes the thought crossed my mind and this “mama bear” gets fierce. I would do that for anyone though, If I saw someone in trouble I would help… would you??
So to those people with the crappy look on your face because you lack knowledge, shame on you and your “behaviors”… I wish that those on the spectrum could understand that the label doesn’t make them a burden in life at all. It makes that person even better, makes them unique and I think courageous to take on this world with a different view. I salute my little gal for kicking butt in this world even on her hardest days when I know she wants to tell me something so bad but can’t…
Someday her brain may connect the dots for her and she will surpass everything we have been told she would not be able to do… Someday she may be able to understand that you can’t walk into the street because cars can run you over… That day isn’t yet but we are getting there more and more each day… telling her No doesn’t work as it should but maybe it will someday. And if she wakes up tomorrow and tells me.. Mom I want pancakes.. well this mom is going to jump up and down and make those pancakes 🙂 …
There is a world out there waiting for her to reach and like I’ve said before in my posts, I pray I’ll be there. I hope Savannah or my sister or brother will step in and BE THERE FOR HER… not put her in a home, but really guide her and love her and keep her safe from the harm in this life… if that day comes I sure hope she has someone who will do the right thing for her… even one of my friends I just want her to be okay and for her to feel safe… as parents we want what is best for our children, once we have them we learn a new way to live and they come first in so many ways…
If you have ever been told something that has made you feel like you can’t accomplish something in life do not feel that way, you are so much more than you understand. You are great and you are wonderful and this world needs you because without you it would be boring. Being different on any level is great.. and you can make it even better by being positive and helping others. -K-
Im asking for some answers with POSITIVE VIBES HERE 🙂
- Are you autistic if so were you ever non-verbal? and did you over come this?
- How do you connect with others?
What does being on the spectrum mean to you?
Have you made a connection with someone on the autism spectrum?
Please please feel free to comment and respond, I would love to know your thoughts… Or even give me some advice, I’m only 3 years into this adventure with McKinley and anything helps…